Exploring sex toys can be an empowering and sensual experience. It can also foster intimacy in a relationship, as it provides the opportunity to explore each other’s interests.
There are adult toys for every fetish or desire. From sleeves and strokers through to vibrators, anal rings, and dildos. It is important that you choose body-safe toys.
1. Anal Toys
Anal toys come in many shapes, sizes and textures. These toys are a great way to explore your anal canal and vaginal back. They can also add a new dimension to your sexual pleasure. It’s vital to use a lot of lubricant when using ananal toys. Anus does not produce its own lubricant, so a lack of lubrication can cause irritation or tears in the delicate tissues lining the anus and the rectum. Lubricant makes anal play more enjoyable and allows the toy to slide into place more easily.
The back of the vagina and the anal canal have a lot of nerve endings, which can be very pleasurable. Adding an anal toy to masturbation or partnered stroking can make the experience even more exciting and intense. Anal toys for men can stimulate the prostate, P-spot, clitoral ridge, and/or finger stimulation. They can also double penetration using a male vibrator or masturbation sleeves.
A butt plug is one of the more common anal toys. This is a long flexible string or thin wand connected to a set round balls (called beads). The anal toy is inserted into the canal and the beads are slowly removed. This can cause the muscles around the anus become extremely tight and pleasurable. This can cause the orgasms to be longer and even explosive.
Look for a butt plug made of silicone or tempered glass. Silicone is safe for the body, and non-porous, making it easy to clean. Glass is also compatible for all types of lubricant. It should, however, be cleaned and disinfected regularly in order to avoid bacteria buildup.
It’s tempting to use an anal toy together with a partner but it’s best to start out with solo play. This allows you to get accustomed to the sensations of anal stimulation, and understand what type of stimulation feels best for you. It’s a great way to practice hygiene and safety.
2. BDSM
BDSM (or kink) is a subculture that has been growing in popularity within the adult toys community. Whether in social gatherings known as “play parties”, or in more intimate settings, people turn to BDSM toys and practice as a means of exploring their sexuality.
Oftentimes, BDSM involves a dominant/submissive dynamic. The dominant partner sets the rules and provides sensory stimulation like spanking or bondage, while the submissive partner receives or responds to orders or instructions. There are different ways to play the game depending on who you are. Some prefer a traditional approach, such as a leash and collar, while others enjoy a more sophisticated harness or tie.
BDSM’s popularity is due to its ability to help people heal trauma and build trust within their relationships. It’s an excellent way to explore feelings or experiences that may be too intense for your daily life. For example, pain, anxiety, or fear.
There’s no need to be intimidated by the idea of trying BDSM, especially when there are so many safe and fun toys available. A small BDSM kit containing items such as a tickler, a blindfold, and cuffs is a good place to begin. Once you’ve mastered the basics, add a silk collar and sash to your kit to create a more immersive experience.
For those with more experience in BDSM there are options like whips and other advanced forms of bondage. It’s crucial to practice BDSM in a safe and responsible manner, with ongoing conversations about boundaries and your partner’s consent.
3. Massage Candles
A massage candle can be a simple, but very effective sexy toy. It’s basically a regular candle that’s been infused soothing botanicals and oil. The warm oil can be applied to various parts of the body using a wand, or even your fingers. This touch is incredibly sensual and intimate, which makes it an excellent foreplay activity before you’re ready to turn up the heat with your partner.
Massage candles work well for kinks because the oil is more fluid than paraffin wax and can be rubbed around the skin. Plus, you can use a kink accessory like a blindfold to enhance the intimacy and sensation.
There are many options for massage candles, but always choose a version that is skin-safe and made with ingredients such as shea butter, baobab oil, jojoba, and other nourishing essential oils. These types of candles also have a lower melting point than standard candles, which means they won’t get as hot.
You should keep a distance of 10 to 12 inches from the flame when using a candle for massage. This will help prevent it getting too hot. You’ll also want to make sure that the wick isn’t burning too long, as it can quickly get dangerously hot. You can experiment with how high you pour the oil and the amount of time you wait after blowing out the wick to find what works best for you and your partner.
Massage candle oil is not suitable for use as a sexual lubricant, even though it is skin-safe. This type of oil shouldn’t be used on the genital area and can damage latex products like condoms or dental dams.
4. Dildos
Dildos can be used in the vagina, mouth or anus. They come in many sizes and shapes, but most resemble penises. (Some are more creative). Toys that are easily cleaned are important because they go into small crevices, where bacteria can accumulate. Silicone is usually the best choice, says Sloane, although you can also find dildos made of stainless steel or glass. It’s recommended that you use a lubricant on any dildo regardless of the material. This is particularly true for penetrative plays. Lube reduces friction and can enhance sensation by making it silky smooth.
Dildos are available in a variety of sizes, ranging from a few centimeters to over a ft. Some are modeled on a real penis with raised coronas, and skin texture features, while others have a more abstract appearance. Most are designed to penetrate and can be worn alone or with another partner. Strap-in dildos are particularly versatile, as they can be worn on either the cock or the shaft.
Most sex toys are sold in stores and online. They are often shipped in plain packaging to protect your privacy. It’s a good idea to do some research to make sure that the store you’re buying from is trustworthy, and offers the toy you’re looking for in the size and style you desire. You may also want to check out sex stores geared towards specific audiences, like women or members of the LGBTQ community. Many of these stores carry a variety of toys, from the sexiest to the most exotic. And they’ll also be able to give you the best tips on how to use them properly and safely. You can then maximize the enjoyment and satisfaction you get from your adult toys.